Author’s Foreword from Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls

“When I first came into contact with the word “Codependent” over a decade ago, I did not think that the word had anything to do with me personally. At that time I heard the word used only in reference to someone who was involved with an Alcoholic – and since I was a Recovering Alcoholic, I obviously could not be Codependent.

I paid only slightly more attention to the Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome, not because it applied to me personally – I was not from an Alcoholic family – but because many people whom I knew obviously fit the symptoms of that syndrome. It never occurred to me to wonder if the Adult Child Syndrome and Codependence were related.

As my Recovery from Alcoholism progressed, however, I began to realize that just being clean and sober was not enough. I started to look for some other answers. By that time the conception of the Adult Child Syndrome had expanded beyond just pertaining to Alcoholic families. I started to realize that, although my family of origin had not been Alcoholic, it had indeed been dysfunctional.

I had gone to work in the Alcoholism Recovery field by this time and was confronted daily with the symptoms of Codependence and Adult Child Syndrome. I recognized that the definition of Codependence was also expanding. As I continued my personal Recovery, and continued to be involved in helping others with their Recovery, I was constantly looking for new information. In reading the latest books and attending workshops, I could see a pattern emerging in the expansion of the terms “Codependent” and “Adult Child.” I realized that these terms were describing the same phenomenon.

I was troubled, however, by the fact that every book I read, and every expert with whom I came into contact defined “Codependence” differently. I began to try to discover, for my own personal benefit, one all-encompassing definition.

This search led me to examine the phenomenon in an increasingly larger context. I began to look at the dysfunctional nature of society, and then expanded farther into looking at other societies. And finally to the human condition itself. The result of that examination is this book: Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls, A Cosmic Perspective on Codependence and the Human Condition.

This book is based upon a talk that I have been giving for the last few years. I have edited and reorganized, expanded, added, and clarified information in adapting the talk to book form, but there is still the flavor and style of a talk throughout much of this book. I have not attempted to change this for several reasons, the main reason being that it works in conveying the multi-leveled message that I wish to communicate.

One of the reasons for the human dilemma, for the confusion that humans have felt about the meaning and purpose of life, is that more than one level of reality comes into play in the experience of being human. Trying to apply the Truth of one level to the experience of another has caused humans to become very confused and twisted in our perspective of the human experience. It is kind of like the difference between playing the one-dimensional chess that we are familiar with, and the three-dimensional chess played by the characters of Star Trek – they are two completely different games.

That is the human dilemma – we have been playing the game with the wrong set of rules. With rules that do not work. With rules that are dysfunctional.

I was terrified beyond description the first time I gave this talk in June of 1991. It seemed as if emotional memories of what it felt like to be stoned to death by an angry mob were assaulting my being. I went ahead with it anyway, because it is what I needed to do for myself. I needed to stand up in public and own my Truth. I needed to own the Truth that I had come to believe in, the Truth that worked for me to allow me to find some happiness, peace, and Joy in my life. I found that other people found Joy and peace in my message also.

So now I share this message with you, the reader of this book, in the hopes that it will help you to remember the Truth of who you are, and why you are here. This information is not meant to be absolute or the final word – it is meant as an alternative perspective for you to consider. A Cosmic Perspective that just might help to make life an easier, more enjoyable experience for you..” Authors Foreword from Codependence The Dance of Wounded Souls

“The most powerful book I’ve ever encountered on codependency is Robert Burney’s Codependence: Dance of the Wounded Souls. Read it and reread it. Then read it again.” – Dr Irene Matiatos, PhD, unsolicited testimonial – Dr. Irene’s Verbal Abuse Site

“A startling and persuasive new take on the new age by a Twelve Step enthusiast. With a compelling writing style that doesn’t just dance around the subject. . .  He examines organized religions, scientific principles, the scourge of aids, other human conditions. And concludes that it’s time we healed, purged punishment, found our spiritual purpose, enjoyed life. He also confronts some of the new age channelers and psychics who shake fingers at those who fall to common human frailty. Readers will find a penetrating synthesis of Twelve Step Recovery, contemporary and ancient principles in his Cosmic Perspective. Burney’s comments are innovative and inspiring, and may just be the answer for so many seeking spiritual guidance. They ring of honesty, and they will cause many to ponder.”  – The Book Reader

“I have been one of the lucky people to read your sensational book! . . . This book is truly a masterpiece. . . Wouldn’t it be great if every living being on the planet read this book? Global transformation!” – Carole Scarfuto Executive Director, NAPRA (New Age Publishing & Retailing Alliance)

Reader Comments:

“When I found your book, I found myself.”

“I just read your wonderful book, thank you for writing it. I have been a spiritual teacher since childhood, however, your book let me organize my thoughts a new way, a new perspective. I now have a much deeper understanding and am still learning from it. Dance, is one of the truly transformational works of our time thanks again”

“Why isn’t this book on the bestseller list?  I think it certainly will be someday.  You have incorporated many concepts of Truth into one beautiful, soul touching, and integrated piece of genius.”

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